Why do we feel lonely, when we are connected to others 24 hours a day, 7 days a week?
People report feeling lonely because they lack real connection with others. Seeing others online or on social media, isn’t necessarily enough or the right thing for some. True connection that is open, honest and genuine is what many are seeking and but report not finding through social media.
Being open and honest, isn’t always sexy and may not set the tone of having it “all together” that so many seem to strive for on social media.
Connecting with others to avoid feeling lonely or isolated requires both courage and risk. It requires being AUTHENTIC and GENUINE.
Allowing the world to see the real you can seem daunting. But it’s one of the only ways to truly feel connected to others, and feel that sense of belonging many of us are searching for.
“We need people in our lives with whom we can be as open as possible. To have real conversations with people may seem like such a simple, obvious suggestion, but it involves courage and risk.” –Thomas Moore
I’m not suggesting disclosing your deepest darkest secrets in an Instagram post. (But, if that’s your thing, be my guest. You may find that there are many kind and caring people online ready and willing to support you.) I am however, suggesting that in order to feel connected and to feel truly known, you’ll be required to share.
I know, SCARY!
There is no other way to find your tribe than to be your authentic self. You won’t be everybody’s cup of tea, and that’s okay. But by allowing a bit of your true self to surface, you’ll find others you share interest or ideas with. Or perhaps, others that you just plain like, that may have completely different views and ideas from you. Imagine that!
One of the many benefits of striving to be a true authentic self, is discovering who you really are.
“It is better to be hated for what you are, than loved for what you are not.” Andre Gide
Struggling with who the real you may be?
Start by asking yourself some of these questions:
- What is something that makes me feel happy or joyful?
- What is something that makes me feel angry or sad?
- How would I spend an ideal day?
- What kind of people do I feel encouraged by?
- What is something I struggle with?
- What are some of my best qualities?
Spending some time getting to know yourself will also help you be more comfortable in your own skin. Which in turn, will help ease the discomfort you may feel about sharing parts of your life in order to find true connections.
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