For many of us, after the long holiday break we go full steam ahead plugging through our days. We hustle, bustle, mark things off our list. We go to meetings, we plan for meetings, we daydream on how to get out of meetings, and even skip them all together.
We juggle car pools, groceries, actually remembering to eat, among other things that there never seems to be enough time for.
Knowing my fair share of working moms and stay at home moms, we struggle with many of the same things. This is especially true when it comes to caring for ourselves. It seems somewhere along the way, it became expected, even admired to put EVERYONE else first. Saving what little, if any energy in the coffers for self care.
It’s not admirable to operate in burn out mode, secretly harboring resentment, frustration, or exhaustion, and certainly not healthy. You deserve the best version of you, and so do your loved ones.
Here are 3 things you can start doing now
to take better care of yourself, start enjoying your life more,
and live in a more relaxed state
That’s right, quit. Not necessarily your job or parenting, (although there are times you may have wished you could), but quit saying yes to things that don’t bring you joy.
If it doesn’t bring you joy to volunteer to decorate the stage for a play at your child’s school, then say NO. If having lunch with that friend who seems to drain your energy feels daunting, then pass. Begin saying no more often to things that aren’t lifting you up or making you feel good. There are plenty of things we just have to do: attend a dinner party for work or a parent/teacher conference for example. But think for a moment before saying yes, and quit doing anything that makes you feel more tired, unappreciated, or plain bored or used.
2. Spend time with friends
I hear you now, sighing and then rolling your eyes, while thinking “I wish” or “what friends”. Friends are important and spending time with people who lift you up, laugh with you, encourage you and make you feel loved, can do wonders for your spirit.
Even if you are doing this only once a month or once a quarter, make it a priority and don’t skip it. Having a life and a few hours of fun outside of your role, as wife/mom/employee/volunteer/caregiver is important and should be honored as a serious commitment.
Most of us are operating in overdrive, every day. Keeping a frantic pace will most certainly leave you feeling frazzled and not at all fabulous. Commit to a healthy sleep routine that will provide the 6-7 hours that is recommended for adult women. Eliminate electronic devices in the bedroom and allow yourself 5-10 minutes of stretching and stillness before bedtime. This may help you fall asleep easily, and stay asleep.
If we treated ourselves the way we treat our loved ones and friends, even just the tiniest little bit, our lives could feel very different. These three steps are a great way to start doing just that.
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